Adaptation or similarity in communication is extremely important. All transmission vehicles must give the same message. That is what the heart said with the language; what the hands say and the eyes and shoulders should be the same. This sameness is expressed by the word harmony.
We consider compliance in two main sections. First of all, it must be compatible with the emotions. The heart should say the same thing as the tongue. If you say söyl I love you dil to the person you hate, the opposite message that your heart says will overshadow what you say with your language.

Secondly, the word should be compatible with the attitude, in other words gestures and gestures. Let's sleep with gesture: When you say "go away" to a person, if you make a call with your hands, the two conflicting messages mix the detected message. When you say unuz a big balloon ars, if you make a small object with your thumb and forefinger, you create incompatibility. When it comes to harmony with mimic: Mimic is a discipline about our facial features. Ama It was a very exciting journey, ama you say, but you pull your eyebrows down. There is incompatibility. When you say ”I haven't seen such a beauty luk by stretching your facial lines, you create incompatibility. So we need to know how to create a harmony in all these areas and turn it into practice.

Let's not forget: In the effective transmission of the message, the word itself occupies relatively little space. The word is perceived as “how it behaves and how it feels Söz rather than what it says. The word is perceived from the ears, the behavior is understood with the eyes according to the meaning of the word. The details reflected in the appearance of the speaker's expressions are never missed.
A word is perceived from the heart of the speaker and from the heart of the listener if it emerges from the inner self. The listener, who is indifferent to his message, listens to the listener, more irrelevant. The monotony of the speaker concentrating in one emotion becomes boring. The speaker who is always crying, always smiling and always angry cannot be tolerated for a long time.
The message of the speaker who cannot concentrate in any emotion is dimmer, monotonous, deprived of soul. Stress and various diseases can destroy the variety of emotions. The speaker should be able to experience every feeling by maintaining his / her health.

The following exercises consist of two parts. In the first part, abstract emotions will be defined and developed. We have to really feel what we feel from our heart as we speak. If we feel deep feelings for our word, we also allow them to feel by the listeners.
In the second part, the development of gestures and gestures (gesture-mimic) will be studied. Because emotions are also reflected as attitudes. As you can see from the tone of the person, you can understand your eyes, eyebrows, hands, even the color of your skin. It is therefore necessary to know and understand what gesture or mimi means.

EMOTION COMPLIANCE
Emotions are experienced directly in the heart, not by any perception organ. We only live in our hearts or souls. However, in parallel with every emotion, various hormones are secreted in our body. For example, oxcytocin in love, cortisol hormone secreted in distress. Emotions can be experienced in the sense that hormones can be secreted and detected. When the body's bio-chemical balance deteriorates, emotion perception becomes blurred when the body is filled with landfills. If our bio-chemical structure is not damaged but we cannot experience our emotions clearly, then we do not have emotional acuity. Because the emotions that people do not experience as deep.
The most suitable work for the regulation of the body's bio-chemical structure is sport. The sport ensures that the defective balance is regulated, and the proper eating system and the escape from stress prevent disturbance formation. Your bio-chemical structure is up to your determination and discipline. The following studies aim to strengthen emotions:

Below are various emotions and parallel thoughts. In this context
1- Grow the feeling of these thoughts within you. Repeat the thoughts given to enlarge the emotion, or speed up your thoughts, increase the inner voices,
2-Move the emotion from your heart to your eyes. Feel in your eyes.
3. Throw your eye out of your eyes at the point where you climbed to the top. You're working in front of the mirror. The goal of emotion must be clear. You throw from your own eyes to the depth of your own soul.
4.To do this process by directing concrete objects to abstract concepts and the human communities that you define. If your aim is not to be a theater artist, you should not work hard on emotions that are negative, such as fear, jealousy, worry, sadness, ridicule, pride, despair, and create harmful secretions in your body.

EXERCISE: EMOTION
1. We need to strengthen them before we can use our emotions effectively. If our feelings are weak, we cannot use them effectively. Sometimes we need some rage and sorrow. But our emotions that we need to strengthen by working with persistence are positive feelings such as, love, compassion, excitement, self-esteem and envy Ama. These emotions will be illustrated with examples below. Because these emotions are the emotions that affect us as well as the audience we talk about most strikingly. Read the texts first and then tell yourself similar words by focusing on each emotion individually.

Kindliness:
Directed object and environment: You took refuge in a house in Sarajevo during the war. You can see a bewildered two-year-old boy, unaware that his family was killed by Serbs. Child looking for his mother wandering in the street on the snow.

Internal Conversations: cık Baby, poor, How beautiful you are. Your eyes, your little nose. He can't walk any more. He looks at me pretty. Oh, my God, his feet are naked. No mama. You're feeling cold, you're shaking. Tears flow from your eyes, how much you cried. Love you so much.

Love:
Directed object or environment: You are addressing people who listen to your conversation.
Your Speeches: These people are heroes because they love me so much. They're all well-intentioned, wanting to learn from me. They're applauding me. They're my friends. If I were sick, they'd visit me. They always praise me when they talk about me. I love them.

Excitement:
Directed object or environment: You are the first in the university exam and you are about to go live on TV.
Your Internal Speeches: I became the first. I'm so excited. I'm about to go up to 65 million. Yeah, they'il see me later. I did it. This is my secret, now they're gonna ask me that. I'm so excited. It's the turn. The cameras are on me. My heart will come in my mouth. Oh, those lights.

Self-esteem:
Oriented object or environment: You are in the European athletics championship. You are sure to win the 100-meter race.
Internal Conversations: I have been running for years. I've always won this race. I'm standing up with all my strength. I'm gonna break a record this time. my competitors are weak. I can go through these very easily. Here's a sign. I'm out of my place. I'm running. I'm ahead. Everyone's in the back. I manage.

Envy:
Oriented object or environment: You are in Anthony Robbins' seminar, a very powerful speaker and thousands of people are listening to him.
Your Speeches: Robbins there, on the podium. He speaks excitedly. We've all opened our ears and we listen to it. They're always applauding. Bravo voices .. This guy was making billions. Everybody here came up with 100 million as a ticket. Shocking. Look at this guy. I can do it, too. I may be like him. It's like I'm talking over there. I can do it, too.

Anger:
Directed object or medium: The killer stepmother killed his child.
Your inner conversations: The murderer mother ındaki jealous of his two-year-old stepdaughter. He put out cigarettes on his back. Burned his hands by rushing furious iron. The child screams. The mother is kicking the child. Mother is ugly as a witch. He hit her with an iron club on her head. Blood flows from the child's head. The child fell to the ground, his voice was cut off, he was struggling.

Sadness:
Directed object or environment: Poor life in which his father lives with his mother in a car accident.
Your Internal Speeches: He was a young man. He was poor, but he was clean. They were just married. A mother and her little child. The patience of the devoted mother and her love for her child. But one more winter came. No firewood to warm up. Neighbors don't help themselves. There's a silence in their house. The shivering child and the hungry and sad mother and the shamelessly cold. Until today, you do not extend your helping hand.
2. It is aimed to develop the ability of using various emotions in sentences below. For the credibility of the words, the emotion of the word must literally be parallel to the emotional emphasis made on the word. When the feeling is incompatible with the word, the listener gets the impression of imi contrived Söz and the credibility disappears. Emotions may change according to the person or the environment. So you should also pay attention to whom and where you want the desired emotion. For example, the phrase söylen I love you seviy is told differently to the mother, father, children or fiancee. Improve your ability by repeating the following work frequently.
Suspect: Eh! Maybe air.
Joker: Yes, the weather is nice but for the ducks.
Conciliation: You mean good weather? You're very optimistic.
Angry: The weather is nice but, we are closed between the four walls.
Compassion: The weather is beautiful. Let's go out on the street, baby. You'il get better if you get some air.
Bitterly: the weather is fine, but it doesn't help but increase my sorrow.
Revealing: What should I do?
Furious: Woe. Here you are!
Exact belief: He will not call us anymore, I am sure!
Objection: Sorry, but not that bad.
Without knowing: Is the car overturned?
Ask without knowing: Car overturned?
Insecurity: Will this man stand in your word?
The Regiment: Of course, you have done all this.
Impatience: Open now, open!
Muzafferce: Look! I didn't say they were alien!
Admire: Oh, how beautiful the weather is! It's gleaming.
Faith-doubt: I believe in all my existence. Perhaps it is, but who can prove its existence?
Pride-humility: I am the master of this work, as well as his only master. What am I, can I ever be held with them?

Love-hate: I love you very much. I hate his existence and his memories.
Worry-of-concern: Of! What will happen now, this is a great sadness for me. Pah! I don't care what you do to me! Bana
Disrespect: I have such a love for him, Hıh! What's he gonna do, he's an asshole?
To stand up-
submission: no you can not do anything to me. Do whatever you want, I will obey all of them.
Courage, fear: Whether I'm ten or twenty, my chest is open. Alas! Alas! You don't see our lives are in danger!
Pleasure and suffering: Oh! It smells nice. Moon! It hurts so much.
Rage-caution: How do you leave me all alone together? We must not decide immediately; Let's think thoroughly.
Regiment, dignity: How can I understand what you say? These are genius! I swear to you that what I say is serious.
Will-weakness: I will work day and night with all my strength. I don't have the power to fight
It's very costly to him. Poor men! What can I ask them now?
Regret-sadness: I'm not saying Allah is not ahammule! Thank god! There's nothing left to worry about.
Candor-
hypocrisy: I tell you clearly what I think. I would sacrifice all the wealth of the world to be admired by you.
Victory-defeat: I've found the end of my wishes. I lost everything, my honor
Amazed-indifference: You? Are you really, really? It was obvious that this would be the case.
Provocation-appeasement: Ha strive! Inert! One more move! Oh, shit, shit! Come to yourself, calm down.
Regret-overhanging: Day and night, I ask myself; How did I do it? Yeah, that's what I'm gonna do.
Hope-hopelessness: Yes, everyone says I will win this job. Now it's all over, there's no way out.

JEST-MIMIC COMPLIANCE
The harmony between the meaning or the content of the word and the behavior is a very important element of credibility. General movements of the body-posture (posture) mimic concept, the general movements of the face-posture-gesture is explained with the concept of mimic. The gesture-mimic is the subject of body language. The effect of the language in the mouth of the body language, especially mimics say what is very ineffective. The speaker who succeeds in the harmony of words is followed with great interest. The natural states of the people show the best mimics. The mimic comes before breathing, that is to say before the word is spoken, and it is said as a breath of breath. The mimicry neglects the conversation completely. Inadequate gestures and mimics evoke the impression of ridicule; while excessive exaggeration destroys the naturalness. Care should be taken in the following exercises. At least 60% of the messages that we transfer to others are only caused by our facial features and the general appearance of our body. The most important message for the audience is not what our language says but our gestures and gestures.

Lecture Gesture-Expressions
1- To specify the action: to hold, to move, to throw something on the hand, to throw. Any work, spending a power, eating, sleeping, going.
2 - Location and location designation: Some times you just need to point alone. To do this, the pupil turns towards the person or person who is real or imaginary. In the meantime, the head lifts, goes down, turns. The index finger can also be extended. The arm is stretched according to the length of the distance.
3- Departure: Two arms that are outstretched and separated from each other show a wide distance. The arms show things that move away from each other if they leave the body.
4 - Specifying the size: For the smallest thing, it is touched with the thumb of the same hand on the tip of the index finger. For height-length, the arms open up to the width, width and width. Or the palms are brought closer to each other and the stenosis is removed and the width is explained. The eyes are moved in the direction of the hands.
5 - Shape: The palms are horizontal and flat. Two hands to indicate the rounded shape draws one round at a time. The gestures of the hand to express the devious, curved things draw curved lines.
6 - Specifying numbers: A single, index and middle finger are shown with a two, and a ring finger is added to the number three. The number can also be explained by closing the fingers of the open hand with the index finger of the other hand.

Emotion-gestures
Eyes:
If the eyes are closed to the side, the evil and disdain are revealed, respect and shame by lowering the eyelids. In excitement, the eyes close and open, the eyelids come down, the head shakes slightly. The body shudder, shiver, breathe frequently. The large eyes of the eyes is a symptom of astonishment, anger, amazement and horror.

Eyebrows:
The eyebrows are roofed, indicating deep thought, stiffness, solid will. The starting parts of the eyebrows upwards and the end of the downward expression is an expression of pain. In anger, eyebrows are broken, a deep line appears between the eyebrows, nostrils open, lightning flashes in the eyes, lips are opened, lower teeth appear before the upper teeth, frequent, hard and deep breathing is done. In deep love eyebrows rise, eyes grow, mouth opens slightly, lip edges slightly curled up. A sweet caress in all lines, a pure glow of the whole face is seen, calm breathing is done.

Mouth:
The half-open stance of the lips tells the astonishment of amazement and joy. Lips on the edges of sorrow down, Lips contraction of the front to extend forward silence to say yelling.
The lower jaw is a little forward, the brutality and the tyranny of the teeth.
Head :
The forward posture of the head indicates curiosity and ferocity, the withdrawal of disrespect, fear, the slight tendency to bend sideways, indifference, pity, forward bending shame and fear. Shaking the head from top to bottom means verifying, front to back, denial.

Arms:
Any one of the arms is moved forward to give a doğru come! ”Or“ go Kol order. It is bent to the indicated location to show the place. One or both of the arms are lifted upwards to indicate severe feelings of admiration. It is left hopelessly in the face of a discouraging situation. Wait and challenge the front of the arms.

Hands:
The palms are pressed on the heart and the love and excitement is explained. If the palms are pressed in the middle of the chest, believing refers to their feelings. Pushing the palms outward, disgust indicates disgust. This intermediate head bends slightly backwards. Rubbing one of the palms on the other is a sign of joy, joy.

Fingers :
Hand gestures, in particular, play a very important role in the index finger. If the index finger is extended forward with the arm, it means a sign or expulsion. If the index finger is twisted and pulled towards the chest, it means to approach, call, and try to silence if the index finger is brought straight to the mouth. All fingers are closed, force and perseverance, fist is shown if the threat is explained. The fingers are twisted and the index finger is rubbed against the thumb and the money sign is made. Combining hands gives the meaning of plea if fingers are intertwined.

Legs:
The posture of the legs is also very important. One of the limbs, separated from the other, stands for strength, agility and violent feelings. The feet are aligned at the same level, indicating comfort, carefreeness, challenge or stagnation. A leg swinging frequently while sitting on the leg leg is a sign of impatience, irritability.

Body:
The shrinkage of the body, the hunchback of the back, the adherence of the arms to the body is a sign of shame and embarrassment. Otherwise, the admiration tells the victory. In disgust, the body goes backwards, in desire, curiosity, forwardness. Reaching sideways or backwards describes the pride, disrespect or lack of physics. Bending the body forward is a symptom of respect.

SUMMARY
For Compatible Communication capability:
1- Ensure harmony between your feelings and your words. When you speak of joy, when you speak of anger, anger, you must be courageous when you speak of courage. The meaning of your words must be parallel with your feelings.
2- You must ensure that gestures (the use of general body organs) give the same messages as your words. Hands, fingers, head, shoulders, legs take different positions according to the given message. Each position has its meaning and it must be ensured that these meanings are compatible with the meanings of the words.
3- There is a great relationship between your gestures (face, eye, eyebrows, general movements of forehead muscles) and the structure of messages. You have to make sure your gestures speak the same words as your messages.

EXERCISE: JEST-MIMIC
1. Below you will develop your ability to use your basic gestures effectively. notice the distinction between mimics and apply a lot.
a) Open your eyelids face to face, slowly stretch, stretch, loosen your pupils up and down, turn left, let your eyes shine like you are very happy and excited. Slowly back to normal.
b) Scratch your eyebrows, deepen the line between the two eyebrows, raise your eyebrows and wrinkles on your forehead.
c) Open your nostrils, stretch them upwards, release them.
d) Lift and lower your lips, move them closer, tighten, loosen; open and close your mouth.
e) Slightly open your mouth, open well, tighten your jaws, loosen them.
2. You will develop your ability to use the basic gestures below effectively. Try to see their meaning by applying your gestures.
a) Pass across the length mirror. Move the body in a way that means ”Yes, no, I don't know, or so? Gö.
b) Move your arms with the meaning şekil Who are you !, Go away from me, Welcome to that, Don't do this again !, we are together, what can I do b.
c) Move your hands with the meaning ına Clamp, collide, rise, descend, strong, vertical, horizontal, round c.
d) Take your walk eley Distressed, confident, proud, staggered d.

Using non-verbal communication and gestures and gestures will make the following pantomimes.
a) Reflect the following conditions with pantomime.
Unuz You are shaking from the cold, you are afraid of violence, excitement and impatience, you are extremely sad, you are seriously ill, you shout with anger, you are watching with appreciation. “
b) Explain the following conditions with pantomime.
Iyor The child is crying, the man is fighting, the soldier is dressing his clothes.
You answer as you get tired of the successive phones and you say no.
Your whole body itches, you're shaking from the cold. You're so happy.